In May 9 IssueRussell County News
There is no way to quantify, qualify or otherwise itemize what a mother means in anyone’s life. Others have tried and some have come near to the mark.
Suffice it to say that not only would you not be, the person each of us are without the blessings and cursings received growing up, well obviously without mom you wouldn’t be.
There is a phenomenon that almost no one ever mentions. We each have a mother that gave us birth guidance and formed, to a great extent, to each of us and that made us who we are; however, there are a host of other “mothers” out there that we all also owe a great debt of thanks to.
Grandmothers and aunts serve as the first and longest serving surrogate mothers in most everyone’s life. They spoil, cajole and give out those “oh no you didn’t” looks. Those looks were usually followed by a cookie or something of that sort.
I don’t know of anyone who doesn’t love gran-maw and most everyone has at least one “kewl aunt.” If you don’t or didn’t then you do truly have my sympathies.
That however is not the end of it.
The dreaded Kindergarten, or first-grade, came along and we passed from the little-kid stage to the skool-kid stage.
An aside here, anyone who is actually “cool” knows that it is more properly spelled kewl, and skool, so back off fool!
But I digress.
Skool daze, ahh what would they have been without that one teacher. Maybe she was the hard looking hard talking disciplinarian who we only recognize years later as a mother to us. Or there was the willowy being that was more spirit than human who was there to teach you that there is something beyond and behind the rules that holds us all together.
They are each and every one our mothers.
I find them still, and I know those older than me who depend on them to this day to guide, support or instruct all who are willing to listen.
There is something in these “mothers” that makes them care for all the rest of us, whether we want them to or not. And yes whether bidden or not their contributions are needed more often than not.
So as you thank Mom this Sunday, remember to thank your best friend’s mother for those things she didn’t tell your own Mom about, and for those that she did.
For the men out there, remember to thank your wife, since she took over a lot of your Mom’s duties when that ring went on.
And before you get that ‘tude about the Ex, remember that “for better or worse,” she had a thing or two to teach you before, and after, the two of you were through.
So, for all the mom’s out there for all you have done; I know it doesn’t really add up to nearly enough but, well… Thanks.